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If you or someone you know needs help to recover after an abortion, Paulding Pregnancy Services will give you resources to help you heal.
Find out more on the toll abortion can take
Following abortion, many women initially experience relief. The perceived crisis is over and life returns to normal. For many women, however, the crisis is not over. Months and even years later, significant problems can develop.
Women who have experienced abortion may develop the following symptoms:
- Suicidal Thoughts
- Difficulty Bonding with Partner or Children
- Eating Disorders
If you or someone you know is experiencing any of these symptoms, our pregnancy center offers confidential, compassionate support designed to help women and men work through these feelings. Remember: You are not alone.
If you wish to begin the healing process from a past abortion or abortions, we offer one-on-one support, group classes, and workshops, all free of charge. Deciding to seek help may be one of the toughest decisions you have to make, but it may be one of the best.
To talk to someone about issues from a past abortion, please call us. All calls are confidential. Please also note that this information is intended for general education purposes only and should not be relied upon as a substitute for professional medical advice and care.
See the effects of abortion through Alison’s Story
Read Allison’s Story of her abortion and learn more about what you might be facing when considering abortion.
“When I found out I was pregnant, I was two weeks into my 21st year and was scared, excited, scared, confused, scared…so full of emotions. When you are pregnant out of wedlock, still in college, and have no real job, being pregnant is exciting for about 10 minutes until reality sets in. How will I tell my mom? Where will I live? How will I work? Is the father going to be a good dad? etc, etc, etc.
My baby’s father was just as excited and nervous as I was. When we told our friends, they all looked at us like we were crazy. “Have an abortion!” they would tell us. Then I told my mom. At first, she was understanding. Then she started making me feel guilty. “Why weren’t you using birth control?” “He isn’t going to be able to support you!” and then finally, “If you have this baby, I’m not going to help you.” Wow, what a heart breaker…your own mother saying she won’t help YOU be a mother.
I decided to look into adoption. I told my baby’s father. He was VERY against adoption. I made an appointment at an agency to find out more information. While waiting for him to arrive, I looked through what seemed like an endless amount of books. These books were made by families who couldn’t have children. They were desperate to have a baby of their own. I’ll never forget seeing the picture of one couple, standing in front of a Christmas tree, smiling. They had the life I wished I could give my baby on my own. Married, owning a house, in love, financially stable. While I couldn’t give that to my baby right now in my life, I could provide that couple with that healthy baby for them to love! I started to get excited that the next Christmas someone would be sharing it with my bundle of joy!
When the baby’s father got to the agency, he listened to what the lady had to say about adoption. The entire time he sat there with a stone look on his face. When she was done telling us about it, he got up and said to me, “You will either have this baby and it will be ours, or you will have an abortion! I’m not giving the baby up for adoption!” He stormed out and the lady told me that without his signature, I couldn’t give my baby to a family. I was once again scared and heartbroken. He would rather me kill our unborn baby than to give him to a loving family? What was I going to do??
I was frantic. I didn’t know what to do! I had no support from my mom, my friends were telling me to have an abortion, and the baby’s father was now indifferent to the entire situation. He wasn’t telling me that he would do whatever it took to make this work, to provide a home and food and love to us. I wanted all of this to be over- one way or another. I needed to decide something, but the one thing I wanted to do- give the baby up for adoption- no one was supporting me and my decision. I wasn’t looking for someone to support ME, but my DECISION on adoption.
Then my mom said that she would pay for me to go have an abortion. I broke down. I made the appointment, but canceled last minute. I was so scared and heartbroken. The following week got worse between me and the baby’s father. And my mom was pressuring me also. So I made another appointment.
At 8 weeks I went in. They did the ultrasound first and I started crying. So did the baby’s father. When the nurse came in to put me to sleep, I freaked out and started sobbing hysterically. She asked me if I was sure about my decision. I said no. She said she would give us a few minutes to decide. As she left I sat there on the table and looked at him. He never said a word as we both sat there crying.
I gave up. Obviously he wouldn’t be a man and rescue me and this baby. I don’t put the entire blame on him though, I should have been stronger. The lady came back in and I told her to go ahead. And then I was asleep.
You think that having an abortion will solve all your problems. Those four weeks I knew I was pregnant were so hard. I had every emotion run through me a million times at the same time. I tried to pretend that I wasn’t pregnant. I tried to pretend that I was and that this baby was going to be a blessing. I felt trapped and thought that having an abortion would just make all the thoughts and emotions just go away. Boy! Was I wrong!!
For days I couldn’t stop crying. For months I couldn’t even walk into a grocery store or Target without seeing baby stuff and breaking down into tears. For years I would dream of my abortion. And still to this day I dream of that child that never was.
Abortion will NOT make your “problems” disappear. They make your baby disappear and you will become haunted. Even though your baby is gone, the memory will never be. You will never look into his eyes. Never holding their hand. Never tell him that you loved him so much. And if you have children later on in life, you will always look into their eyes knowing that a part of them is missing. You will have your family photos and know that someone is missing. You will see children around the age of the child that you should have had and think, “wow, he would be walking now.” or “gosh, he’d be starting kindergarten this year.”
Please don’t have an abortion. It has been almost 8 years since I have had mine and I still love, dream, and think of that baby often. You hold someone so precious inside of you. Please, I didn’t know it then but there ARE ways to give a baby for adoption without the father’s consent. There are adoption programs where you can still have contact with your baby and their family if you so choose. Run from anyone who tells you abortion is the easy way out. Please seek help from people who can offer you another solution. Now that I know what I know, I would have rather been poor and kept my baby than to go through having an abortion.
I got pregnant again 4 years after having an abortion. I was still unmarried. I still didn’t have a real job. But I KNEW I wouldn’t have an abortion. And I’m now so very blessed to be a mom of the most wonderful little boy. I’m now married and we also have twin boys. I KNOW that because I got saved and became a Christian that God forgives me. And I believe he gave me twins because he knew how much I regret having an abortion.
Yes, I’m the mom of four boys and one more in heaven. He should be here on Earth though. Lord, thank you for taking care of him when I didn’t.”